So, had wine with some friends and their spouses. Admittedly their political views lean towards the conservative side. We are all entitled to our opinions and I try to maintain respectful, albeit we have had our playful jabs and debates. However, I could not believe my ears when the discussion turned to how Barak Obama needs to just "present his birth certificate" and be done with it. I was so blown away that I thought they were joking. I was shocked and then disgusted when I heard them talk about how he was born in Kenya, is a Russian plant and un-American who doesn't represent the original views of our founding fathers to have a christian nation. When I challenged them, I faced so much wrath and belittlement that I couldn't speak. I was labeled a liberal who needs to be saved. By the way, their husbands is why my husband refuses to have drinks with my girlfriends and their spouses - he finds the men especially toxic. I always thought he just took them too seriously - well, shame on me!
So, I got home, threw up for about 1 hour (I truly did) and told my husband that I just had drinks with the nazi party and was so mortified. I love my girlfriend but her gay-bashing, anti-foreigner, anti-whatever husband can go to hell. I definitely see his conservative ways having influenced her over the years. She used to be so open and accepting - albeit a conservative - but not a blatant racist. As my husband tried to comfort me - he pointed out that she is a big girl and can make up her own mind on things...and she obviously has.
I feel awful. I guess it's because the curtain has been drawn and I can see - really see and hear what is being said. Time to step off the cliff and make some waves as I say goodbye. But it hurts and it's like breaking up...well, it is breaking up. I would never associate with people like this - I guess 10 years of a friendship that never got to this point until this weekend is what makes this so difficult. I want to hold on to the good things that I remember...but I don't see much good developing from this. Friendships are supposed to grow and help one grow. Don't see that happening here.
It really is disgusting when people have such ignorant views. Unfortunately my Dad falls into that category... and I can't break up with him.
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